If we see the questions on the Interviewing message board we can see that it shown some of our readers' difficulties in getting a search after leaving or losing a job. But according to me it is useful for us to start at the beginning.

If we see the questions on the Interviewing message board we can see that it shown some of our readers' difficulties in getting a search after leaving or losing a job. But according to me it is useful for us to start at the beginning.

One thing is very clear about the work culture of the new millennium is that nearly all work is now short term, frequently even careers themselves. You have to prepare for change whether it suits your style or not. If we mention the current statistics so we can see that almost all say that the average job is only about three to four years now, but if we talk about 15 years ago when the average tenure of the job was 10 years.

It is good to understand in advance that there will be emotional ups and down, most importantly during the first few days of you're joining. This journey will include depression, apathy, denial, anger, and then some more anger. Everyone goes through this stage to one degree or another, and I don't believe that why people don't believe this.

It is not good to call everyone you know and start sending out resumes, answering ads, and calling recruiters. Because most of the times you are not prepared for the start a search after a separation. Don't do a job search "on the rebound". You'll probably say things that you will wish you hadn't. But it is good to share your true feelings about the situation with only a few people- maybe your close friends or your family members. You don't want everyone to avoid you ("Uh oh, here comes the whiner..."). Now is the time to adopt the marketing stance that your career - no matter how you perceive the reality - has been sunshine, light, and success. And you want everyone to know about those successes.

Calling to those people you know is not networking. Networking is indirect relationship building, quite a different thing.

Develop a target. Years ago, in my private practice, I was deluged with people announcing, "I want to be in TV." I never knew what does that meant.... did it mean television repair? Developing a target is the centerpiece of beginning your search. What is the job function- specifically? What is the desired culture? Geographic location? Size of organization? Do you want to start your own business? Consult? Do you have Dot-com-Virus? This may all involve some extensive self-assessment, with or without outside assistance - but it's necessary.

And then, of course, you need to research your target.

Stick to the marketing plan and stick to that. Work the system; there are no shortcuts, except for the occasional bolt of lightning. If you are discipline and consistent this thing account for a lot in this process.

Be flexible. If you're seriously listening while developing those relationships, your target might adjust and shift.

If you are creating daily structures and devise techniques for stress improvement then it is good because its not a terrible thing to do something that you enjoy during this period, something that you couldn't do while working full time.

If you are loosing a job or leaving a job it doesn't mean the stigma it used to, except in your own mind. Its part of the culture now which everyone has to face one day.